GETTING HURTED BY PEOPLE WHOM WE LOVE

As a human being, we will definitely have some kind of feeling for fellow human being.  This cannot be stopped as this is against nature to stop human being have feelings for other human being. I have suffered a lot because of this feelings. There are a lot of true persons whom I have missed due to the feelings that I had on loved ones who never even considered me as a person. This suffering has started during the college days and it is continuing till now. It is very difficult to express our feelings on the person whom we love and it is equally difficult to the understand the feelings of the person who love us.

We might not like them initially, but when we get loneliness, we might think about them and might be longing for them, they might be at a untouchable distance. It is hard for us to swallow this. Atleast, if the person considered as our loved one, stayed away from us, it is understandable to stay away from them. But, if they never understand us and meant to hurt us by some means, it is very much difficult to bare. There were only two scenarios that happened in my life, longing for the person who doesn't even bother about me and missing out the persons who were true to me.

Even though, I was able to realise this, I am unable to implement them. I definitely never had ego clashes with other persons, but something is preventing me from disturbing others. There are many people around me, who got introduced to me through different mediums and they are ofcourse, my loved ones but unfortunately I am not even able to spend time with them. this might be due to the unlucky nature of mine. I can bare getting hurted by someone who never bothers about me, provided the persons who loves me stays with me for long.

DYING WHILE DOING FAVOURITE JOB

Death is a natural calamity and we never have control over our death. There is not a correct age for death to occur. There may be people who might live long and acheive nothing and there may be few people who might die early but they might have acheived greater things in the world.This post was circulated as a whatsapp message. I am writing with the intention not to hurt anyone. There are 2 famous people who are connected to my heart and I am going to describe about their tragic deaths, that occured while doing their favourite job.




The first person about whom I am going to write is our Ex-President Dr.A.P.J.Abdul Kalam. There is nothing much to describe about him as he is famous all over the world. He had many roles as president, Scientist and Teacher. His favourite among them is being a teacher. He was giving a lecture to the futures of India and he died unfortunately while that lecture. It is a huge loss to the nation especially youths as he is one of the inspiring leaders the nation has produced. We miss you sir but on the other hand, we are happy for you to be lucky enough to die while doing your favourite job.


 26 is never the age to die for any youngster. This young cricketing lad definitely deserved a few more years in cricketing arena but death came to him while doing his career. He may be 26 years of age but he has represented the most powerful country in cricket. That was unfortunate to get a blow while batting and then dying, it should not happen to any other player of any sport. But, on the other hand he would considered cricketing field as his place of worship and would have been happy to die while playing cricket.




I feel definitely happy for the people who share the post, but we should not forget those people who take the dangerous job of saving the nation and dying while doing their work. These are the people who are unrecognised even when they die after doing their favourite job and dying in midst of them.

 

TOO MANY THINGS AT ONCE

              I am a normal human being, who is facing a lot of thoughts at a single time. I am not able to think the beneficial things at once. In certain aspects, I want something, but unfortunately, I am not getting it and I go to a situation where I need to accept something that comes my way. I am ready to do that too, but the hatred it creates from my inner part of mind is too high. But, after sometime, I might lose that too and when I got something else, then I realize the worth of the previous one that is not at all near me.

             There are a lot of distractions that happens and reduces focus. I might plan on doing something but might end up in doing something else. I know that might be a waste of time, but I still end up in doing that. on certain cases, I might do something for getting something and sacrifice certain enjoyments that happen during those times, but I would be happy If i had gain or achieved something during those leisure times, but I end up in losing those wonderful moments as well as ending losing up in the work that I intended.

               I am not able to stay normal like other human beings,I end up in being frustrated a lot number of times. I always never wanted to show my frustration on other people, but they misinterpret on me and thinking that I am mad. I don't wanted to show my anger on others and hurt them. Instead, I would prefer crying myself and letting out my sorrow. people might think me as coward, but unfortunately, crying in front of other need more courage.

IN OTHERS SHOES

                We always have the problem of comparing ourselves with others. If I had been in his position or her position, I would have done so much. I would have enjoyed and things like that. But, in reality it is not at all possible. Life is a exam created by god and there are different question papers, that have been set for each of us. If we try to copy answer from others, we might get caught. Moreover, the answer written by others, might not be suited for the questions that are asked to us.

                It is very easy to criticise others, but when we stay in their position and the perform the tasks assigned to them, then we will feel the heat. This process of positioning ourselves in other's place or position is called as In Other's shoes. Before, thinking about entering into other's shoes, we need to understand one important thing. We need to remove our shoes and then we need to move into other's shoes. Without removing our shoes, we enter into other's shoes, it will be very tight.

                Similarly, when we think about being in some other person's position, we need to come out of our own position. Then only, we will know the pain. This is practically not possible until and unless we do some kind of swapping and moving from one soul to another. The important thing that I learnt about not moving to other's position is we have our own position and chance for living, if we concentrate on that alone, it is more than enough.

SENTIMENT MOVIES

                              Movies are always considered to be a part of our life. Adding to their entertainment value, they must also deliver some kind of social message. At least, if they don't provide social message, they must ensure that they provide the value for the relationship. Sentiment movies are those movies which always quoted the importance of relationships. We must ensure that, the relationships are very much important in our life. But, now-a-days the value of sentiment movies dropped. Sentiment movies were in peak till the late 90's and early 2000's. But, now-a-days people never bother to turn a hear to these kind of movies.

                              If they come across, certain sentiment movies, they would try to make fun of those movies. Now-a-days everything has been commercialized and these people want movies also to have commercial values rather than the sentimental values. of course people have sentiments in their life, but they don't want them to be seen in movies that they watch. They always want something to have a star value and some kind of fights, song sequences with heroines and all. It is not that easy for a film maker to make a movie, that too movie with a lot of sentiments. But, people are accepting movies with a little sentiments rather than full fledged sentiment movies.

                              Movies are the media that grab the attention of all the people and can be translated and transformed into real lives. Sentiment movies are those that can add up a lot of values to the movie freaks. Movie can reach a lot of audience through the word of mouth, atleast if they don't reach the mind of audience in a direct manner, it would always be better to reach people. We wanted people to accept and give attention to those sentiment movies, like those given in the beginning of 21st Century.

CELLPHONE - THE THING THAT CONSUMES MOST OF OUR TIME

                     Time is one of the things that we could never buy, it is running so fast that, we might think a lot of days are left for certain things to happen, but the days are like minutes, minutes are running in the speed of seconds and seconds are running like nano- seconds. The Maximum amount of time spent in our life is while sleeping. But, after that, the maximum hours of time that is being spent rather wasted is while using cell phone. Of course, there are a lot of useful information, ideas and all communication can happen through cell phones, but being a normal human being, a lot of time is spent on useless activities rather than the useful ones.

                   Play Mobile games is one of the useless activities that consumes human time. The next one is of course, whatsapp, where a lot of images, useless videos and text messages are shared. The third one being facebook, where we spent our valuable time for spreading the publicity of others. The people who want publicity use facebook as tool and we people are becoming scapegoat for them. Of course, in today's world cellphone is a must, but the level of usage has to be reduced. The interaction of people is happening in more through mobile phones and not through the direct interaction.

                  There might be some function of our relatives, people would be busy with their own cell phones, rather than spending time with relatives whom they can meet only on occasions. There might be a outing planned with friends, most of them would be using mobile phones rather than interacting with people and enjoying the outing and to add to that is the selfie culture. Cellphone has become the sixth finger in everyone's hand and some people consider it as third hand. Even, while sleeping most of them need it and from the moment they wake up, it becomes an integral part. I want to imagine a situation, where all the cellphones are blocked for one day and how the life becomes miserable for all.

CAMPUS INTERVIEW

              Job is most important thing for each and every person to own their living. Certain people have their own business and certain people enter into the companies with help of their referrals. But, a lot of people depend on their campus interview for placement. In campus interview, the college brings certain companies for getting their student placed. They provide immense training to their students on various skill sets required by the companies. It is always a opportunity for the students to make use of the opportunity provided by the college campus.

              Once, the student leaves college campus, it is very difficult for the student to get job outside the job market. It is because, the competition will be too heavy. If a student finds it difficult to compete with 100's of students in their own campus. It will definitely be difficult for them to deal with 1000's of students outside the campus. In case, they might end up taking the job that require lesser qualification than that of their own qualification. There are a lot of people who might end up in suicides for not getting the jobs that they would have liked to.

              But, the college point of view is just to show 100% placement for increasing the capitation fees the next year. Of course, their point of view is right. But, students too have different plans, they might get placed in one company and might have another option of going to foreign countries for persuading higher education. Many people think that, they might have spoiled the opportunity of other candidate. On One angle, it is true. But,from other angle, everyone needs some backup. So, this guy might have had an option of higher education in mind with the job as backup. It is always advisable for getting placed in campus, so that there might not be a need to struggle for finding jobs.

LOVE FOR WRITING

                  I always have the habit of writing whatever that comes to my mind. Even my preparation of the exams requires a lot of writing. Writing the lessons learnt ensures that I am thorough enough of the topics that I had learnt. This habit was developed from my gene and my parents gave me this idea during my schooling. Even after reaching college and company, I am unable to leave the writing habit. I always like to write something or the other. This writing has some expectations of gaining some popularity and appreciation of others, hope that will be got in the near future.

                  Pen or Pencil is the important tool for writing. Till our third class, we used to make use of pencil for writing. It was during the 4th standard, I developed the habit of writing everything with the help of pen. At the initial stages, my handwriting in pen was not so good. It was even very difficult to understand. Of course, my handwriting has been improved and better than most of the colleagues. My parents initially, suggested me to make use of the Gel pen as the handwriting would be good and we can avoid the leakage of inks from ink pen and the less comfort level of ball point pen.

                  Of course, they were right in that too. But, gel pens were too costly and I felt very bad for making my parents buy them. They used to get emptied pretty much sooner than the ball point pens. Moreover, I have the habit of losing pens. So, my parents decided to go for cheaper ball point pens. I too have the liking of ink pens as they are cost effective and it would give definite good handwriting, but the major problem is the leakage of inks, which I faced a lot number of times. I never wanted this habit of writing to end and it is being continued through the blogs.

PRIORITY IN OTHER'S LIFE

            There is always a case of worry in the minds of people. They used to think that, why am I not so important in other's life. Let me discuss the reasons for doing so. Because we never prioritize ourselves. We are always available for them and they know that, we are readily available for them. Because they never feel proud of having you. We dont possess anything that they can flaunt in front of others. We give a priority to people those who never mind about us at all. We let ourselves as a choice in front of others. We are giving a great value to people who never values us at any cost.

             We care too much and let others exploit you . Being too good and not knowing that other people are taking advantage in you. We are wasting feelings on people who never deserve it. We are still maintaining that bad relationship. We are yet to meet the people who are worth keeping. We are constantly made inferior to them. We never know to respect ourselves and stop people from exploiting us and the last reason being that, we never know to walk away from people who use us.

GIRLY FIGHTS

                        It is also known as cat fights. Many times I have come across certain different fights that happen in the world. To be specific, I always like to witness the fights that happen between two girls. Girly fights does not mean, two men fighting for some girl. It simply means, two girls fighting for a silly reason. The main fight comes when two girls who consider themselves as equally important, out of which one gets the importance and the other one does not get the required importance. The fights happen in a very childish manner. They would never wanted to accept their defeat or mistake.

                         These fights might happen without any reason at some cases. when we expect the fight to be over, it might continue. There won't be much worthiness of such a fight to happen. In other cases, we might consider a fight to prolong a long duration, but such a fight might have been ended. It is very difficult to understand what a girl is thinking. Even another girl finds it difficult to predict the behavior of a girl. These fights are very simple at times but definitely effective. Girls have the greatest memory power among all. They correctly remember the statement given by us and delivers when we commit a mistake and make us accused.

                         In certain cases, they might have committed the mistake, but we might end up saying sorry or asking forgiveness to them. Such is the intelligence level of them. Even systems might falter sometimes, but the memory of girls will never falter, because such is the capacity of their alter. It is interesting fight to see if two of your sisters fight, if two of your friends fight. But, it won't be good if two leaders fight. If a wife and mother-in-law fights. Whatever may be the fight, it would be better if the fight ends up in a positive solution.

OVER CAUTIOUS

              One Kind of behavior that should not be possessed by all is over-cautious. It is good to be cautious, but over cautiousness limits the expansion of ones freedom. There would be a lot of restrictions that will be levied on the person when they feel him to be over-cautious. Being overcautious might result in minimizing the error, but there is never a assurance that the error will never happen at all. Definitely, the person needs to get some leverage in doing their works. These people are certainly having some kind of disorder that is know as overcautious disorder.

               We can take example from the cricket scenario, we are playing a test match and our team is playing to draw the test match and we have all the wickets in hand and fifth day of the match and around 400 runs to win on the final day, which is herculean task and never happened on the fifth day. All the batsmen's intention would be to defend the ball and not get out and save the test match. They just needed to be cautious and play the natural game. Natural game doesn't mean that, they need to go after the bowling. It just means that, we need to ensure that we play with confidence and should not be worry about losing our wicket.

              Once we start to become over cautious, our mind would wander about not losing our wicket, which might give extra care and fear which might inturn result in losing our wicket. Cricket is not only the scenario where  this over cautiousness plays a vital role, there are many other similar kind of real life scenarios in which the over cautiousness plays a very very important role. It is not easy to adapt to this condition. But, we must avoid being over cautious while taking important decisions related to career,organization or personal life.